Muslimahlocs said...
Happy lockiversary! Your sisterlocks look fabulous. They have grown so much in the past two years. How have you grown with them?
Getting Sisterlocks have allowed me to truly fall in love with my hair. This is a feeling I never had prior to having them. As far as I can remember, I was brainwashed to believe that my was so bad that it needed to be fried, tamed and broke down to do right. I was so miseducated that I actually believed my hair wouldn't even do right when locked. That belief is one factor that played into why it took me so long to start locking in the first place. Due to reprogamming from the past two years, I accept and love my hair in all its glory. It may not be as soft as other people's, I don't care. It's not as thick as somebody else's, I don't care. I may have to go through a few extra steps for pretty curls to hold, I don't care. I am not longing for anybody else's hair texture. I love my hair for what God blessed me with.
I'm done judging and being judged. Everybody doesn't wear locks for the same reason nor do I believe they should have to. Everybody isn't going to lock their hair the same way I did and I don't feel they should have to. Am I biased? Of course!! But at the end of the day based on my circumstances from two years ago, I feel good about my hair decision to lock and how I chose to lock. Right now, nothing is broke so I don't need to fix it.
If I ever have to cut my locks off and sport my loose hair texture, I am now ready. To sum up my overall reflection of how I feel about my hair....I am at peace. This also means being tolerant of other people's hair decisons regardless of whether they are good or bad from my point of view.
Happy lockiversary! Your sisterlocks look fabulous. They have grown so much in the past two years. How have you grown with them?
Getting Sisterlocks have allowed me to truly fall in love with my hair. This is a feeling I never had prior to having them. As far as I can remember, I was brainwashed to believe that my was so bad that it needed to be fried, tamed and broke down to do right. I was so miseducated that I actually believed my hair wouldn't even do right when locked. That belief is one factor that played into why it took me so long to start locking in the first place. Due to reprogamming from the past two years, I accept and love my hair in all its glory. It may not be as soft as other people's, I don't care. It's not as thick as somebody else's, I don't care. I may have to go through a few extra steps for pretty curls to hold, I don't care. I am not longing for anybody else's hair texture. I love my hair for what God blessed me with.
I'm done judging and being judged. Everybody doesn't wear locks for the same reason nor do I believe they should have to. Everybody isn't going to lock their hair the same way I did and I don't feel they should have to. Am I biased? Of course!! But at the end of the day based on my circumstances from two years ago, I feel good about my hair decision to lock and how I chose to lock. Right now, nothing is broke so I don't need to fix it.
If I ever have to cut my locks off and sport my loose hair texture, I am now ready. To sum up my overall reflection of how I feel about my hair....I am at peace. This also means being tolerant of other people's hair decisons regardless of whether they are good or bad from my point of view.
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it is a blessing to have reached the level of comfort, love, education and peace that you wrote about. i am glad that you are there and that i am there with you. although i must admit that for me it wasn't that much of a journey. my mom indoctrinated me with self-love from conception.
i've done the same things to my hair that most of us have done but not b/c i did not like my natural texture or coveted someone else's. i just wanted to be what i thought was "fly" or cute at the time. it was not until i shaved my head for the first time in the late 80's that i realized that just being me was all that i needed or desired. i am looking forward to celebrating having been natural longer than not.
i love the quote from mjfox. it reflects what we believe as muslims that only God is perfect,...in wisdom, and in designing creation with all of its beauty, splendor, variety and texture.
After reading this post, there is no denying that Goodnaps has not only grown with her locks, but in a lot of other ways as well. I can relate to much of what you said, and you said it well.
Amen!!! You are in inspiration to all black women, Sisterlock Community included.
To get to a point where you are at peace with your hair is a wonderful feeling. I'm still working towards that. I too was brainwashed, not by my folks, but my peers and that dern tv that if you have some kink it needs to be straightened. Forget the fact that my scalp was burned or my edges were disappearing or the smell of the chemicals was giving me nightmares.
This is a GREAT post!!!
This is a very good post,lots of good stuff to think about, can always depend on you for inspiration.
God Bless.
Self-love is a wonderful thing, and I'm glad you found it thru SLs.
I'm not quite like you and not quite like others who commented. I was told I had BAD hair by others throughout my life, but I never believed them. I always thought I had nice hair, but I didn't know what to do with it.
I always felt like it was just a matter of finding the right products or styling techniques and I would be on to something. I just had to figure it out.
And I did. I loved my natural loose hair. Very much the way you love your friends or SO in spite of their limitations and imperfections.
And I feel the same way now about my Sls. It's like falling in love with someone new who is nothing like anyone you ever were involved with before. There is so much excitement and newness and uncharted territory. And not a little uncertainty. Will it last? Is this too good to be true? Where IS this going, ultimately?
But I am still enjoying the journey. That's why periodically I post about how I am still in love, because the infatuation has not worn off yet!!!
Thanks for this post, I enjoyed it.
Amen, sista. You hit the nail on the head. The goal is to be at peace. And when you've got that, nobody can take it away. Having SLs has brought me that. I used to hate my hair and its texture. Since wearing it in its natural state and now having locks, I LOVE it. And I think it feels it too, lol. I know, I'm wacko.
so deep. it's so nice to grow with your locs, isnt it??? i 2 feel this way, and my relaxed friends are so surprised of my attitude with them. i'm supportive of their choice-some have tried to go natural-but fall back. i'm always there, supportive, letting them know when it's their time, it will happen. no judgments-each one's journey is unique, who am i to interfere?
Muslimahlocs - You are absolutely right, it is a blessing indeed. The other alternatives that you mention take a lot more energy than I'm willing to give these days.
Aya - Thank you so much. It didn't happen over night but at least it did.
Meikmeika - Thank you so much!! Finding such peace with your hair makes focusing on other life priorities that much more wonderful.
Ja Stu - Why thank you so much. You ladies sure do know how to a gal feel special.
Blackrussian - You were definitely a lot more fortunate than me. Being in touch with who you are and what you can achieve, can take you many many places.
n'drea - you a whacko? Never! It's so amazing how such much peace can bring you so much strength.
Cheleski - Natural hair freedom is like giving up drugs. You have to want it for yourself. Nobody can push you if you're not ready.
Well said and very thought provoking for me! I have had many of the same inner conflicts during this journey of mine but, like you, I have also found peace. Thanks so much for those words from the heart. It means more than you know!
Thanks for this post. It is really freeing and has helped me to accept everything God has decided to bless me with!
Congrats on reaching a wonderfuly point in your journey!
Good post and quote!
I am just loving that quote I think it's my favorite for the moment.
Thanks for sharing
Aundrea - well thank you so very much. I've learned how fascinating it is that we all share similar stories.
Dstdiva - Thanks. I could not agree with you more.
Naturally Sophia - Thank you very much!
Sister-in-locks; Thanks and you are more than welcome. Such a quote helps keep you grounded a bit and that's why I liked it so and decided to share.
Congratulations! You wrote about a lot that deserves celebrating. Maybe it was a New Orleans thing, but I always got a gauge on where people's thinking was by whether they used phrases like 'getting their hair fixed.' No matter how you choose to style your hair, I hope we all come one day to the contentment you describe. There isn't anything about us that isn't as it should be...We are all made in the image of our Creator and that's an awesome beauty to behold. How could I possibly take issue with the divine order that made me exactly as I am.
Thank you for sharing. You brought me up too.
Congrats on your 2 year locversary!!!! I have to admit I agree with you that everyone locs their hair for their own personal reasons and with that growth is bound to happen...
Why thank so much Renea! You always know the perfect things to say.
Locksuluv - You are so right. Growth happens on many different levels.
Hey, I was wondering can you help me put my picture next to my information like yours, and how do i get the list of all the bloggers? Im such a newbie
Its really encouraging to see how you have grown into being at peace with your hair. its funny how something that God gave us to add to our beauty can cause us so much grief and pain. But its inspiring to see what can happen when someone fully embraces the gift God has given them. There is a freedom with that type of contentment and peace.
Elizabeth - Why thank you so much dear. It took long enough for me to get there but definitely worth the wait!
Thanks for sharing. I am happy to hear you are at peace with your hair and appreciate your standpoint on other people's hair decision. I am biased too, but accept everyone can make their own personal choices on how to style and wear their hair.
Dreamangel - it's so hard to not be biased right? Thanks for stopping by.
Goodnapps,
I love this post, it is so open and honest! "Excellent" is one of my favorite words so I really appreaciate that quote you have by Micheal J. Fox.
I am working on a poem called Self-LOVE. "Self-LOVE is loving how God made RJQueen10. From my lovely kinky locks all the way down to my ten toe nails. Plus everything in between." It is strange the things I have done over the years to distort and alter how God truly want me to be. I am proud that at age 35, I am closest to the Original plan than I have been since I was an innocent little girl. Thanks for writing this post!
RJQueen10
Sis RJ - why thank you so much ma lady! You are definitely welcome.
Ok, you have put me to the real test now. A client has asked me to intall her locks and she said "I want mine just like Goodnapps." So guess what, I'll be doing my best to make my her locks look very close to yours.
Taking care of those locks cause they are really looking healthy!
Creyole
Hey, when are you gonna post again?
We gotta see more pics of your beautiful hair.
Creyole - I am completely stunned. That made my day on Sunday. I'm sure you will hook your client up for sure.
nDrea - a couple of opportunities escaped me. Once they're gone, they're gone. Perhaps in a few weeks if not sooner.
Lakia - Thanks. Ditto what I told nDrea.
Well, I lovin' your freedom and your ability to express it. You're right we have to fully embrace what is ours. Not what is yours or someone elses. I'm working toward this and I too told my consultant today that if I ever decide to cut off my locks I can not ever see returning to relaxed hair, but would instead reaquaint myself with my hair as God gave it to me. So, thanks for encouraging all of us as we make this journey together.
Linda - you are so welcome. It's good to hear from you and I hope all is well.
Oh Goodnapps, it's been too long, we miss your posts!
Hey Mel!! - I know Thank you so much deary. The last couple of months I really didn't have anything new to blog about with my hair. Some fresh updates have now come to mind so I have to gather my thoughts.
In addition, I'm trying to gather some new photo shots. I will be posting soon!
Just to show you how behind I am in checking in on my blog friends. Happy belated anniversary to you T! You've come a long beautiful way, baby!!!
I am glad to hear some updates are coming...I have been waiting (-:
Maryee- Thank you so much. I just saw your 4th year updates. I will have to stop by.
Tra - uh oh. No sooner that I thought I was going to post, I let the thoughts escape me, then my digital battery went dead. Excuses, excuses. Hopefully I will have some updates soon.
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